Compensating belief: The world is dangerous, threatening. People can’t be trusted. You must seek or defy security, avoid or face danger. The world demands too much from people and gives them too little, potentially resulting in a scarcity of resources.
Attention/coping strategy: Becoming vigilant, questioning or doubting. Scanning for what can go wrong. Seeking certainty either by defying security and facing danger (the counter-phobic style) or by seeking security and avoiding danger (the phobic style). Protecting myself from intrusion and demands by cutting off feelings. Focusing attention on intrusions and detaching to observe. Becoming self-sufficient, seeking privacy, limiting desires.
Trap: Seeking certainty for which there is never enough proof. Obtaining self-sufficiency will free you from needing anything from others.
Driving energy: Fear associated with all the possible dangers or hazards. Avarice (stinginess) for essentials that are perceived as being scarce, such as private time and knowledge.
Avoidance: Becoming helpless and defenseless, avoided either by aligning with authority (the phobic style) or by defying it (the counter-phobic style). Intrusion and demands by others leading to depletion of energy or to a sense of inadequacy.
Strengths: Spotting hazards, heightened intuition, loyalty, thoughtfulness. Keeper of confidences, knowledgeable, calm in a crisis, appreciative of simplicity.
Paradox: Seeking too much certainty in an uncertain world creates more uncertainty and anxiety. Striving for self-sufficiency cuts one off from essential resources and nurturance.
Path of development:
- Accept insecurity as part of life Experience feelings in the moment
- Develop inner faith in self, others and the world Stay connected rather than withdrawing
- Recognize that both flight and fight are reactions to fear Allow more people into protective circle
- Observe fear and calm it Reveal personal matters, express self
- Move ahead in spite of fear Engage in physical activity
Ultimate task: Reclaiming trust in yourself, others and the world, and living comfortably with uncertainty. Reconnecting to the energy of life force and heart-felt feelings, realizing that ample energy and resources are available.
Relate to tradition Eccentric
Consider rules Ignore rules
Linear thinking Non-linear thinking
Establish methods Contest methods
Doubt their minds Trust their minds
Seek security Seek knowledge